When we break down the word encouragement, we notice the joyous word: courage.

Spread encouragement like you do- when you share a smile.

It takes immense courage to initiate, implement and sustain consistency, in any new personal avenue of development. It is the same for those of you hoping to make, and trying to follow new year resolutions, dreams or wishes.

There are layers of hidden human- nature- resistance, in all of us, such as doubting one’s ability, finding excuses, procrastinating etc. These are normal human traits; but for those who have never known maternal nurturing, it can be hard to stay on track. We have missing holes from dysfunctional early – year development. It is as if the first Babygro our mother dressed us in was dirty and threadbare. We soon learned to find our own warmth. We have complex levels of doubt, and many other unhelpful setbacks in our psyche. Example, when I first learned to walk aged three, due to my cerebral palsy; It was to a percussion of mother tutting impatiently. Praise got over-shadowed by impatience.

How this translates within my spirit, mind and body is far too intricate to detail. Yet an obvious negative symptom is that I must consciously remind myself that I’m not in a race. I must learn self-patience.  Not forgetting that I am work-in-ongoing process, that I am working through my foibles.

If you, or a loved one is trying to embark on a new venture, whatever that might be – takes courage, commitment, and discipline. It may require lifestyle changes, a new timetable, many new factors. Be kind and understanding always.

Bare any behavioral patterns in mind, be there for yourself and others. Try to maintain your regular meet-ups with them. If they are pre-occupied, then keep in touch with messages of encouragement.

Guide them back to their talent, if they come to you for emotional support, because they are passionate about making a change in the year ahead. Fill them with enthusiasm and warmth.

Suggest a meet -up, when they get to a celebratory milestone. Cook for them – if funds are tight.

Last, but not least, when you are going about the outdoors chores, such as grocery shopping or emptying the bins, do more than just notice that cool kid’s skateboard skills. That child could be feeling alone and invisible as you once may have felt… and yet, a little encouraging chat could be all the spark they need.

 

I hope you find this helpful.

With SUNNY wishes,

Emma x