From our first day at school, and frequently through to adulthood, we compare ourselves to others.  It’s human nature, because we enjoy meeting people who are like us in personality or who have the same interests as we do. In the playground we might be drawn to those who have the same hair toggles, pencil [...]

When we’re caught up in anxiety or feeling overwhelmed, it’s hard to see through the fog-like cloud in our heads. Perhaps we know what we should do: breathing exercises, planning ahead, dealing with a single task at a time etc. But often in the moment our sensibilities seem to betray us. We are amidst a [...]

When we try to comfort a young child, we’ll often crouch down at their eye-level and utter soft and soothing words. It is extremely effective in helping them to understand and to help them feel at peace. Yet, and especially for those of us who endure trauma, stress or depression, we find ourselves acting in [...]

It drills its screeds at me: Diligently pulsating – bones outwards It’s an ever present mass So known, yet eludes description Its monstrous whispers incessant But the quiet is my respite If it notices a trigger, it misses none, placards are beamed behind my sockets Thankfully the duration quicker than the ever present moving film [...]

Abuse and trauma survivors tend to overthink, and even though we feel numb, it’s because the cogs in our heads are set on overdrive. There is still much debris of historic trauma that we’re trying to process and make sense of. We have a human desire to sort things out tidily and orderly, in much [...]