We humans waste energy lamenting about the things we feel we can’t do; as opposed to celebrating what we can do.

Very often we are hindered by our limited belief system; yet it’s merely the residue of someone else’s unkind narrative: poor parenting is often the cause.

When we focus on what we can do, this strengthens the foundations of our very own self-belief; it reminds us of times when we felt dynamic. It makes us recall the many things that we can do, and makes our minds feel clearer and stronger.

It’s helpful to reflect back over the years, and cite anytime when you accomplished something new; write a list of all the things you can do. Keep adding to it throughout the day, and include anything which springs to mind. I like to include, talking and walking, since I learned both aged three, and the eureka moment I felt then, can be re-hydrated: to give me a boost in my real-time.

As we learn to manage our wayward emotions, we remind ourselves that we each have a wonderful human brain. We become mindful that we are in charge of our own intellect and the decisions we make for ourselves.

We’re all living in a challenging era, our problems and worries can make us feel as though we’re logged under a pile of soggy autumnal leaves, and it can be highly distracting, trying to peep through the gaps.

It’s like the road map in our heads is blocked by fallen trees, and our vision feels distorted.

Think of being caught-out by torrential rains, when you are midst driving, in what seemed like a bright cloudless day: you pull over safely, and stop the car. The heavens have suddenly opened, yet sensibility takes over. You let the storm pass, before you resume your journey. You take stock of your plans, or make phone calls to update people.

This is a good example of focusing on what you can do.

So next time you may feel overwhelmed by all the things you can’t do, pretend you’re in a fictitious car journey. Sit quietly somewhere and contemplate all your abilities.

Remember you are blessed to have fantastic human intelligence, and in so there is an abundance of things that you can already do; they’re simply hidden from your current viewpoint.

When you start recalling your fundamental skills, they fast build up. You re-discover things that you’ve over-looked, that can help you feel more clarity in your own real-time.

New ideas emerge in your conscious mind that can support your wellbeing today.

For instance, if you can walk, then you might be able to jog? You could build up from a ten-minute gentle run, around your immediate community, towards thirty minutes of free useful physical exercise.

The more you train your mind to focus on the things you can do, the more empowered you will feel.

We all have far more skills than we readily remember; in the same way that most of us own more than one pair of shoes! The distractions of life simply hinder our vision; but the skills you have will help you when you remember to utilise them.

I hope this is helpful.

SUNNY wishes,

Emma x