Our human habit of claiming that we’re “good”, when we’re not, goes against the relatively new promotion of speaking openly about our mental health.

A lasting side effect of trauma, for those of you who are trauma survivors, is the merciless theft of talking: many of us have inverted our feelings and largely function on auto-pilot.

Whether you’ve experienced a recent decline in your mental wellbeing, or you are hampered by historic trauma, it’s surprising how many of us can exist in this numb state. We can start families, thrive in our careers, and even be adept at socialising. We are consummate actors.

We’re aware of our inflictions yet choose to hop over them, in much the same way as we dealt with life as kids – making stepping stones over a stream and ignoring the murky waters below.

But, and especially in an era of change and uncertainty, we deserve to function at a higher level. We owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to enjoy fuller, happier lives.

When we recognise that we are tongue-tied, we can start making healthier choices. We might seek support from our families or a professional. When we are open about our true feelings, it’s empowering – and we can go some way in helping ourselves too.

We should take comfort in knowing that many of us have delicate mental health. But, existing in a numb state is not sustainable- for the creative and clever race that we are.

Even jotting down the issues that are blocking your happiness is hugely beneficial. You are moving them from your unconscious mind to a more productive conscious state. You can see them more clearly and begin to address them. Good luck.