Being honest about our own aspirations, needs or faults is far harder to do than you may think. Even understanding our own personality traits, which we may want to improve on, can elude many; or in my case, take until my late forties to even come into focus!

I’m not sure why this is, perhaps it’s the wisdom which comes with age?

Yet, I’m sure that those of us who have endured trauma are at a disadvantage: perhaps you’ve experienced an absence of a nurturing narrative, or the fear of feeling self-indulgent? Nonetheless, we’re all too good at helping others see their focus, and sadly, less so at helping ourselves.

There are also likely a whole host of things and activities which you go along with, out of fear of seeming antisocial, which can exacerbate our anxieties. Yet, perhaps it’s time we bravely learnt to say “No”.

It’s possible, due to recent changes in our lifestyles, that you’ve spent time reflecting on you: The meaning of your life. On that level the pandemic has been constructive.

I, for instance, have started being far more honest about my need for solitude: a slice of the day just for me, in my case, for my writing.
But it wasn’t easy to achieve because I was tongue-tied and held back by feelings of unfounded guilt. Initially I’d get bad-tempered because I couldn’t express my needs honestly – but thankfully, I realised how liberating being open about my desire for some daily time alone was with my partner.

You could jot down things which are frustrating you about not living your truth – I’ve found this helpful. But the chances are that you already know them. These will be your conversations you have with yourself when you’re waiting for a bus, or mulling your thoughts over in the shower.

Remember, we only get one go at life on Earth; and every one of us deserves to feel the power of self-honesty. Think about the niggles you have regarding your self-honesty, and be brave enough to do something positive about them. Practice being honest with those closest to you, it’ll help you a great deal.