Whilst self-discipline is integral for our personal growth, of equal importance is our ability to be self-honest. We cannot fool ourselves into thinking that just because we have become ultra disciplined: eat well, exercise etc. – that this equates or negates the need for self-honesty.
Self-honesty is facing our inner most feelings: the stark truth of them – in the same way that we might scrutinize ourselves, nude in a full-length mirror. Not many people feel comfortable about doing so; or they distort what they see, too often with an unfounded critical eye.
Even when I critiqued myself in the looking glass – six years ago, my gaze fell on my disabled side, and the large scar that was caused by maternal neglect… I no longer scathe at my reflection: I see the truth of me because I grew self-honest about the part of me which matters – the soul inside, and all that I yearned for: – from my tethered emotions, and my aspirations despite the physical and emotional scars…
Too often in life, we people please, say “yes,” when we mean no, tolerate behavior in others that we would not accept of ourselves. These hamper our original identities, the time before we got hurt, or when we were too numb to notice.
It is only when you genuinely want to start your journey of personal development and growth; and accept that it will not be easy, that a rainbow of self-honesty merges from the murky skies within your mind’s eye. You see with a dawning of new clarity, and the wrong people around you will become blatantly obvious.
Yet, and I feel this needs reiterating, achieving a consistent state of self – honesty it is one of the toughest leaps of personal faith you will experience. Most people cannot look at themselves naked in a full-length mirror. Most people are not self-honest, worse still, they pretend to be. We are advised to give such people a wide birth; they have envy at heart; and to simply focus on your own journey.
To help you get started, take yourself for a walk, or find a bench by the river or sea. Simply ask of yourself, which aspects of you in the present day, are you self-honest about, and which ones are you not? Those aspects within your psyche, that you are tolerating, but not being honest about, will be neon light apparent. Pick one at a time, and work in it consistently. Think in simple bite sized terms, example: – five minutes of exercise daily will make my stomach flatter. I will honestly be putting in the regular work, as opposed to talking about it.
I hope you find this helpful.
SUNNY wishes,
Emma x