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I believe that we grow when we realise that nobody is going to come and save us: but ourselves.

We are mere mortals, insignificant dots on planet earth. We do not know the true size of our universe, and scientists regularly discover new planets, even reputedly more universes. Yet, we are self-contained sources of magnificent energy.

But for a sacred handful of true family and friends, most people do not care, or simply do not have the time to invest in us. They have their own lives, problems, and heartaches to try to navigate around.

Perhaps I have the advantage of maternal abuse, which has made me self-reliant – since I was a toddler child- parent- when my parents separated.  Maybe my sense of personal responsibility was helped further by living with an annoying disability. Either way, I feel highly fortunate that I had one good parent; whose gritty upbringing I could siphon strength from.  My late father, a cockney foundling with his gold teeth and giant gold earring. He bestowed hard love on me, and despite his success, never gave me a foot-up. I recall wishing to borrow five pounds, that he made me pay back with interest! He once had a function with the late Princess of Wales; but disallowed me to accompany him, because it meant me taking a day off work.

Yet he taught me greatly about the value of personal responsibility; albeit that big chunks of my psyche remained oddly naïve, and for far too many years. It is only since my mother’s passing that I am now conscious about how and why some people form cuckoo friendships.

But the foundations of personal responsibility remain from the lessons my beloved dad taught me, that nobody is responsible for us, but number one. Even when I tried to get sympathy from him; following a pummeling, by a nasty gang of girls when I was eleven: luckily, he gave none. “You’ve got to choose to be strong, like me”- he had said…

It is not that we cannot seek support or help from other people, indeed we do, from our tight circle. But ultimately, we must take responsibility for our own lives and aspirations; and we must devote the time and hard work to achieve our dreams.

We must be humble, grateful, and honest with ourselves. We should be kind and nurturing to other’s who are less fortunate. Doing so equips others in the same way as a bee pollinates a flower; we can lead by quiet example, helping one another reach their full potential.

 

I hope you find this helpful.

With SUNNY wishes, Emma x