As we give conscious attention to the behavioral patterns from our childhood- that hinder our mental wellbeing in adult hood: we become lighter in step and mind!

We learn to notice, see, and action each ivy rope of them, – cutting them back, the ugly weeds of them all, one gentle tug at a time.

And then, when they’re all cleared away, it’s a glorious mind that you’re back in charge of: a BIG new empty space!

As you bounce happier and calmer along the path; in your mind, you are the: aeroplane- wedding- reception – kid. You’re racing through your glorious mind, marveling with a welcome dose of new- grown energy. Because you’re rewarding self for every step of improving- that you’ve made, so far. It is the things you do in your selfcare journey, that help you to reveal your dated habits of yesteryear, which need ridding of.

Count every one, picture each one as another square of your mind life- tapestry. (I credit my oldest friend Sam, with this analogy) watch it grow and feel the comfort of self-care that each of your new accomplishments make you feel in your soul and tummy. Enjoy those sensations: you deserve them.

They include: keeping on top of the house work, approach it one drawer at a time. Consistently eating the recommended portions of fresh produce / getting enough sleep / the daily practice of breathing exercises, and meditation, they take only minutes to do / getting outside daily / stretching / relaxing and laughing with loved ones.

I know, because I’ve been doing all the above things, how differently I feel today.

Being locked away in your own mind is how survivors of child hood trauma deal with our emotions. In part, it’s a built-in coping mechanism. But we must remember that the symptom of this can be long lasting. We need to wake up, like the star of a Disney cartoon.

We can do this by self-narrating our daily. There is new research stating talking to ourselves, and preferably aloud is good for our wellness. It keeps us in a conscious state as opposed to running the day on autopilot.  It works.

We get the new space in our glorious minds to heal help and grow.

It’s due to the ongoing work I do on self, that I’ve been able to write a book about how I survived a harrowing childhood. It has tidied away more space in my mind, and even though it wasn’t easy to write, I simply chose to be honest. To show the future reader how I navigated around my scary mother whilst trying to protect my younger siblings. How I grew strong and had a fantastic mentor in my much-missed late father. He taught me to be stronger than my disability.

It is my poor late brother’s birthday today, he unfairly blamed himself for mother’s crimes, thankfully being truthful was drummed into us by our father…

I’d like to remind you, that every time we clear more space in our glorious unique human mind: we are leading the life that we always deserved.

Sharing my story is soothing. The sting of it drifts further away each day; and I wish for you all: that you too can enjoy this sensation too. Try the things I’ve mentioned as they will truly support you, and put you back in charge of your glorious mind .

I hope you find this helpful.

SUNNY wishes,

Emma x