Her handkerchief smells comforting. Her soapy neck smells the same. She is wiping my tears and snot first. Next, with a scrunched-up face, she pulls the of dog poo off and undresses me.

She doesn’t like what I’m wearing. They are called “hippy rags!” And they are in an “awful colour.” She tells me that little girls should wear pretty dresses. They should be floral and in pastel shades.

I don’t know those words yet, but her soft whispers feel nice…

At two years old, and still unable to talk or walk – due to the cerebral palsy, I had no idea what my late Grandma was saying to me.  All I knew was that I’d: “been neglected again” and that she was my rescuer: instantly her scents and whispers calmed me…

All these years later, and scents and whispers are still an incredibly comforting resource.

They are likely to be yours too: – the lavender soap of your grandma, the scent of real home-cooked food, and the wondrous earthy smell of soil, the delicate perfume of wildflowers and juicy berries.

When we’re midst our healing journey, we find quietude in mother nature, the peaceful melodic birdsong. Perhaps it’s the sleep-inducing purr-box of your feline friend. Or the biscuity scent of your pooch.

In our subconscious minds: we know that such things help us, it’s simply that we can over-look using these built-in free human tools. We forget that we have access to them, that we can tune into them – because it’s our conscious heads which navigate us through our day.

Yet, one of the best healing tools I have used since I was a child- and needed to comfort my younger siblings is whispering. Subliminally it abridges our conscious minds to our subconscious, and it’s easy to apply, with instant calming benefits.

Revert to whispering, or speaking quietly for the day and set yourself up for a more peaceful mind.

Start by applying it to number one. In the morning as you brush your teeth, do so in the mirror. Whilst you’re attending to your pearlies: – look yourself in the eye, and copy the language that someone who once cared for you used, and emulate their soft tone:

“Hey darling, you’ve got this, now how about a little something for breakfast.”

This is additionally beneficial, since it feels as though your loved one is coaching you towards a serene day.

Maybe you contend with booming loud voices at your place of work. But now it can be your turn to set the ambience. Simply pretend not to hear them, at first: – to give self a spot a deep breathing, and conserve your energy. Then, when you do answer them, use a soft low voice by way of responding. Do this a few times and you’ll find; they’ll eventually copy you.

To be independently resourceful will make your entire physiology stronger, and your calm tones are positively contagious, just like a smile. Moreover, a mix of whispering and sniffing comforting things is an anxiety melter, and is foundational for your mental wellness.

I hope you find this helpful. With SUNNY wishes, Emma x