Those of you who endure injustice, or who know that you’ve been wronged, will be aware that there is a certain sensation that plagues our bodies. For me, it’s a tightening of the stomach, an acidic gut, and a headache. We have misplaced anger, which is frequently born of not being able to confront our historic abusers’.

Yet, we may not consciously realise that we suffer from this, and perhaps we only become aware, when somebody points out to us that we seem to have a short fuse.

In the worst-case scenario, we might have failed relationships, which only upon reflection, does it occur to us what was at the root of our problems.

I’m lucky in that I identified the cause of my misplaced anger, – about six years ago. Nowadays, I’m able to assert myself, walk away from a trigger point, and talk things through with my partner. But of course, where the upset within me can never be resolved, (I have tried many times), then unfortunately I can occasionally still fly off the handle.

But this time, I know what is going on inside my soul. I made myself consciously aware of it.

The core way that I still deal with this is by reminding myself that we can only control our feelings, our actions, and our words. Actually, via self-counseling, I wrote this fact down and stuck it on my fridge. It still remains the most helpful tool, coupled with reminding myself, that I try to be a good human.

Additionally, there is nothing more mind–combing than getting outside and immersing ourselves in nature. Whether it be a walk, run, or cycling, we all know the benefits of regular exercise, even sitting amidst nature’s beauty is extremely soothing and calming.

Recently, my partner also endured similar injustice to mine. Of course, it opened up many unresolved trauma and wounds from my own history. It was harrowing to see my partner endure many of the same symptoms as I have.

But, we’re getting through it now. I’m a big advocate for the need to rest, and although I wasn’t encouraged to rest as a child, actually in the early days of a traumatic event, it’s essential that you do. There is a need to re-boot or sleep. There is a lot to process, and the need to harness, and manage our anger so that it doesn’t become misplaced in the future.