When we’re feeling delicate, tired or vulnerable, the temptation is to supermarket sweep – in terms of gathering advice and opinions. Yet support with our decision-making cannot be treated as though we’re stocking -up; like the bulk buying, many did – in the covid epidemic.

We need quality advice, because quantity of dozens of people’s opinions will vary. There will be bias, and sadly not everyone will be genuine or knowledgeable. They could be the sweetest person you know, and unintentionally proffer poor advice.

In our hearts, and because we’re fortunate to be human; we usually know the best route of action. We feel it in our gut instinct. Or perhaps we have lived with the problem or issue long enough to be the best judge of our destiny.

If you have a decision that you would like advice about, then initially keep it to number one. Sleep on it. Mull it over for as long as you can – before broadcasting it. Jot down a pros and cons list, giving yourself some solitude, and devote the time to do so. This way various solutions, be they partial, or full – will reveal themselves to you. In time you will have more clarity; you will have considered the fuller perspective of it.

Once you can see the facets of your dilemma, then you can choose the best select few to discuss your concern with. These people may either be in your tightest circle; or you might go to a specialist charity, or professional. Only discuss the matter with those – who do not have a hidden agenda; and who genuinely want the best outcome for you.

An example of trusting my own advice pertains to the cerebral palsy I have, which affects my right-hand-side. In this case, I was advised to have the bones broken in my foot, realign the metatarsals – help support the muscles.  But I’ve lived with the disability all my life. I knew the surgery would not help long term. This is because the muscles in my right leg are incorrectly attached to the bones. The only way to fix the problem fully – would be to detach the leg and turn it around. Thankfully, or not -this such procedure does not exist. The way that I partially counter the pain/ problem is to try to keep as slim as possible.

I could have spoken to a thousand people, but ultimately, I knew the answer, innately.

Try to trust your own wisdom first. Let the problem mature for as long as is safe, or sensible to do. Figure out some initial solutions, with pen and paper… then if you still need advice, be highly choosy about with whom you confide in.

I hope you find this helpful.

With SUNNY wishes,

Emma x