Some of the more mundane things we have to do daily could benefit from us taking a less serious attitude toward.

When we practice saying to ourselves: “Does it matter?”- Then we’re instantly giving our over-stretched minds, a joyous sense of invaluable relief—a chance to exhale and collect our thoughts. Or, an opportunity to enjoy a soothing cup of tea, in the time we may have saved.

In this current era, whereby the cost of living has sky-rocketed, and many of us endure anxieties over finances, health, and work: we’re already coping with plenty of unprecedented pressure to balance our lives.  So, now more than ever, we need to practice self-kindness. Moreover, we should be reviewing our attitudes over some of the aspects of our lives that we can control. We should be applying a does it matter attitude toward as many as possible!

I try to avoid watching the news because it does nothing to nurture a sense of calm within me. I observed how I react to the media hype some time ago, and grew mindful of the negative effects it causes my entire physiology. A wound-up worry- box!  Now I only watch uplifting stories or avoid drama.

I found that it caused me to further stress about many humdrum chores that I formerly did without a second thought, such as the laundry or cooking.

So, for instance, I’d be in the midst of making a chili-con-carnie, and then panic when I discovered I had no rice in the cupboard. But, I said aloud to myself: “Does it matter? No, it doesn’t, I’ll use pasta instead”. Or, I’d worry about getting the bedding dry in time, forgetting I’ve got at least three spare sets of bed linen.

Nowadays, of course, like many of you, I do my laundry in the evening, when it’s cheaper to run the machine. I don’t fret about whether my partner has sufficient clean work clothes either because I said aloud: “Does it matter? No it doesn’t, he’s got loads of pairs of jeans”.

This mind shift has been extremely helpful to me and certainly does help in fostering an improved sense of calmness.  I apply it to the maximum, and the key to doing so is to say the self-command aloud, – so that your conscious mind hears your own voice. This in itself, has a soothing effect which is similar to a good parent’s loving voice.

I hope you find this helpful.

SUNNY wishes,

Emma x