When we lead by example we need fewer words.

We largely communicate non-verbally with our actions and example. We are positively helping the people we care and love about calmly, kindly, and with a higher sense of intuition.

This is because we are also working on ourselves. It is continual management of our own issues that prevent the ugly ego from taking root. Actually, we have probably “tried on the jackets”, perhaps when we were younger people, of traits we thought were helpful, or learned poor behavioral patterns.

But through amassed wisdom, and a desire to continually wish to live as the best versions of ourselves, we no longer need the “clothes” we once wore. They no longer fit us, and we have thrown them away because we like the purity of sheer love and deep consideration for others.

We value truth integrity and harmony instead. We shy away from unkind whispering, and we ban passive aggression. We speak frequently without words because we know that they clutter fragile minds.

It is the desire to live peacefully, that dominates our hearts and souls. It’s the tough experiences of our own past that sharpen our empathy and understanding of others.

We have created a sense of trust, and open space, ready for when the vulnerable person may wish to step into it.

This state of mind is attractive to the delicate people we wish to help. It speaks of safety and it’s soothing like a cool breeze. In the same way that a smile is contagious, so is being at peace with ourselves.

It’s not that we, don’t have problems. We’ve learned, and wish to keep learning, how to use our wonderful human intellect, to help steer us through life. We nominate our brains to manage our emotions. We know that the mind is the boss over our hearts.

Yet, our hearts become abundant with love because that is the emotion that we desire the most. We wish for love to be our dominant emotion, and we make it overrides all the others.

Those we wish to help can see this in our every action. There is never any need to second-guess how we might be feeling. Games don’t need to be conjured to sweeten our mood, and nor do the people we care about, have to be concerned about getting the timing right, for when they may wish to open up.

They feel innately calmer, just by being in our presence. They know we will listen without judgment when they feel like talking. We won’t patronize or be condescending. We will offer pure advice which doesn’t hold any second hidden message.

We wish to be clear compassionate and kind because we were once in their shoes.

We are quietly leading by example.