Justice isn’t always served to perpetrators of abuse, many of whom continue living a free life, undetected, and in denial. Occasionally, and only if there’s sufficient evidence, historic abusers may finally be brought to justice - yet many of whom continue integrating themselves into normal life. This causes a life of anguish and pain to [...]

I know several brave survivors of childhood sexual abuse, many of whom feel that they are sadly not heard… It’s no wonder, because similarly to abuse survivors, we have been catapulted into an unquantified space, suspended somewhere in our muddled heads: our normal childhood brain developmental patterns have been interrupted by our [...]

When we ponder on our ruminations with a fresh mind, i.e. after a good night’s sleep, we’re often further ahead in knowing what our answers are than we give ourselves credit for. As an example, like so many of us, I’ve been worrying about my business. It’s not easy finding new work during such uncertain [...]

I will not dilute the depth of pain we feel when we lose someone. I’ve endured many bereavements and frankly, I struggle to accept and fully process my losses. I’ve simply learnt to carry the pain differently, much like shifting it about my person, as though carrying a bag of stones. We still owe it [...]

In such uncertain times, many of us may be finding it hard to smile at all at the moment! We have been distracted by a plethora of problems since the pandemic, and grinning at ourselves might feel trite, silly, futile, or a waste of time. But it isn’t; it’s actually a way to give us [...]

When you experience difficulties making a decision, you are likely over-thinking it due to all the anxiety you are enduring. Our ability to concentrate is impaired because we have overwhelmed our brains with worry. It’s no surprise - so much has changed for us all this year and many of us face career and financial [...]

Happiness truly does come from within. But if our hearts and souls are damaged by poor nurturing, abuse or neglect, then this notion could elude us for years - even a lifetime. We may not feel worthy of happiness, or we’ve incorrectly sought it from material things or outside influences. We have forgotten to give [...]

Acceptance is a tingly warm sensation in your gut. It comes with a huge sigh of relief, and can help to ease bodily pains and headaches. Acceptance is a new grip on your mental health, with noticeably improved clarity of thinking. But it is hard to achieve, especially where matters of the heart are concerned: [...]

Last week I spoke about the value of recalling compliments to help bolster your self-belief. Because when depression strikes, so many of our opinions about ourselves start sailing down the stream - we endure a distorted and unhelpful self-image. We need to pan for our own gold to help energise us, re-align our cluttered minds, [...]

A truly annoying and hindering symptom of depression is a depleted sense of self-belief. It gets confiscated with little or no notice, and its timing is awful. There you were, thinking “I’ve got this”; or you’d thought of a new way to tackle a problem with joyous clarity and you'd gone to bed feeling assured… [...]