Many abuse survivors, including myself, can endure feelings of detachment from our sensibilities, or feel locked in our heads because we don’t know how to discharge the lasting effects of trauma. These feelings dwell in both our physiology and our physical health: unexplained headaches, gastric problems, etc. We might have sought the help of medical [...]
We all lead such busy, hectic lifestyles that it can be hard to keep focused on every aspect of it. Often it feels as though we’re balancing an entire crockery service, rather than just a few plates! Whilst being organised is key to getting tasks achieved and in combating anxiety, we can go to the [...]
There are many reasons why some of us are hard on ourselves - one being the residue of an abuser’s narrative. I still hear mine, it’s an echo, full of maligning, historic words - which, whilst I can’t entirely switch off, I have learned to override. It takes daily management; it’s a bit like trying [...]
Our restricted lifestyles during the past couple of years have played havoc with our sense of wellbeing. Our equilibria may have lost fluidity, affecting our physiology and draining our sense of identity. At times, my head has felt like the sediment in the bottom of a bucket... But, I counter this by remembering the importance [...]
As a child, I was fascinated with the super bouncy power balls which could effortlessly spring six or more feet into the air. They came in neon colours: green, yellow, pink, which somehow seemed to accentuate their magical power. Watching them spring so high up in the air with relatively little effort made me see [...]
Whilst the majority of us have come out of lockdown, it’s commonplace still for people to self-isolate. We’ve all got used to the odd restraints in our lives. We’ve all had time to reflect. Many of us have endured losses, lots of us have lost income, too. Our lives these days are very different from [...]
Survivors of any form of abuse frequently endure poor internal narratives. The inner voice seldom has the capacity to revert to mute mode; at the very best, we can turn the volume down. On good days when we can hush the critical voice or ignore it entirely, perhaps when we’re enjoying giggles with our friends, [...]
Accomplishing anything boosts our sense of wellbeing. It nourishes our mental health. It is a makeover for the soul! Any accomplishment counts, and the key is to make little accomplishments on a daily basis. It is like saving pennies - they soon mount up. They could be as simple as: Hoovering your home Sorting out a junk [...]
For those of us who are able-bodied enough, the chances are that you get yourself out of bed in the morning. This in itself is something to be grateful for - indeed too that you have a bed to rise from! Not all of us are great in the morning - maybe you’re the sort [...]
Anxiety, depression and other mental health impairments blur and steal away our sensibilities. They distort and unbalance our minds. They can captivate us for years, decades, or sadly a lifetime in severe cases. It can take considerable time for many of us to even realise that we’ve been functioning in a comatose mode: too numb [...]